Please let us know the name and yahrzeit (anniversary of death) of your departed loved ones. We will honor their memories by announcing their names at our synagogue during worship services. Generally we observe the yahrzeit on the Sabbath or holiday closest to the anniversary of death on the Jewish calendar. By request we can follow the secular (Gregorian) calendar for observances. We normally send a reminder by postcard or email of upcoming observances to temple members. Names can be added to the synagogue list at any service by request. It is traditional to kindle a yahrzeit candle (a twenty-four hour memorial candle) at the home of the mourners on the eve of the yahrzeit. We publish a memorial book for the High Holiday season and names can be added for a small donation through the Temple office. For synagogue plaques, please contact the temple office.
It is traditional to unveil a headstone after a number of months have passed after the funeral. This is often scheduled about a year after the death, however it may be scheduled after one Jewish festival has passed and at a time convenient for the family of the deceased. Rabbi Kudan can assist the family in planning an appropriate unveiling service and in composing the inscription for the headstone.
In Jewish tradition, when the year of mourning is over, mourners are expected to return to a fully normal life. There are several occasions each year when our loved ones who have passed on are memorialized. The most significant of these is yahrzeit, the anniversary of the death, which is observed according to the Hebrew calendar. As is the case in all Jewish holy days, yahrzeit observance begins at night. A 24-hour candle is lit and one may attend synagogue to recite the Kaddish [the memorial prayer]. It is traditional to avoid attending any celebrations or parties on the day of yahrzeit, and some people fast on that day.
Yit-ga-dal v'yit-ka-dash sh'mei ra-ba,
b'al-ma di-v'ra chi-ru-tei, v'yam-lich mal-chu-tei
uv'chai-yei d'chol-beit Yis-ra-eil,
ba-a-ga-la u-viz-man ka-riv,
Y'hei sh'mei ra-ba m'va-rach
l'a-lam ul'al-mei al-ma-ya.
v'yit-pa-ar v'yit-ro-mam v'yit-na-sei,
v'yit-ha-dar v'yit-a-leh v'yit-ha-lal, sh'mei d'ku-d'sha, b'rich hu,
l'ei-la min kol bir-cha-ta v'shi-ra-ta,
tush-b'cha-ta v'ne-che-ma-ta, da-a-mi-ran b'al-ma,
Y'hei sh'la-ma ra-ba min sh'ma-ya,
v'cha-yim, a-lei-nu v'al kol-Yis-ra-eil,
O-seh sha-lom bim-ro-mav,
hu ya-a-seh sha-lom a-lei-nu v'al kol-Yis-ra-eil,
An English Translation
Glorified and sanctified be God's great name throughout the world which He has
created according to His will. May He establish His kingdom in your lifetime and during
your days, and within the life of the entire House of Israel, speedily and soon; and say, Amen.
May His great name be blessed forever and to all eternity.
Blessed and praised, glorified and exalted, extolled and honored, adored and lauded be
the name of the Holy One, blessed be He, beyond all the blessings and hymns, praises
and consolations that are ever spoken in the world; and say, Amen.
May there be abundant peace from heaven, and life, for us
and for all Israel; and say, Amen.
He who creates peace in His celestial heights, may He create peace for us and for all
Israel; and say, Amen.
May they rest in peace and may their memory ever be for a blessing… At this moment, I pause for thought in memory of my beloved...........................I give thanks for the blessing of life, of companionship and of memory. I am grateful for the strength and faith that sustained me in the hour of my bereavement. Though sorrow lingers, I have learned that love is stronger than death. Though my loved one is beyond my sight, I do not despair for I sense my beloved in my heart as a living presence. ustained by words of faith, comforted by precious memories, we kindle the light in remembrance. “The human spirit is the light of Adonai” (Proverbs 20:27). As this light is pure and clear, so may the blessed memory of the goodness and nobility of character of our dear..............illumine our souls.